All But a Lazy Oaf


Not everyone has the same goals, and there are a lot of people that need to understand that…



PreciousS2_8550Lazy Oaf shirt | Rain raincoat | Pigeonhole umbrella | ASOS jeans | Betts heels
Photos: Sita at Precious S2 Photography


I have spent the last few days thinking about a comment that the owner of Movement Co, Jacob, made regarding a recent news article in which I was slammed for my choice to travel over purchasing a home right now. I could say a lot about what went on and my current position and reasonings, but that is another story for another day. In the face of the demeaning comments on this news article, my friend Jacob turned around and said:

“I won’t lie, I am a Gen Y who wants it all… I am just doing things around a different way”.



His comment, and some previous comments along the lines of ‘that is the problem with Gen Y kids, they just want it all’ and ‘if you don’t buy a home now, you will end up poor and homeless’ (I know, right?!?!), got me to thinking…

Why is it seen as a problem that we Gen Y kids want it all?

I want to continue growing my business, I want to travel, I want to learn more, I want a new, reliable car (note: I said reliable – I don’t need anything flash), I want to be able to buy a nice handbag or pair of shoes every so often, I want to lead a social lifestyle, and, one day in the future, I would love a house and family of my own. Yes, I want a lot, but I can’t see the issue with that. I can’t see the issue with anyone wanting good things for themselves. We are always being told to dream big – by family, friends and even those gosh darn inspirational posters. Sure, I (and a lot of other Gen Y women) might have some different goals to what women did 25 years ago, and I might be attacking my goals in a different order to that of what our parents did, but who does that affect except me? And why do complete strangers feel they have the right to dictate how I, or the rest of Generation Y, should be leading our lives?

I believe that there is absolutely no issue with ‘wanting it all’, so long as you are willing to put in the hard yards and earn it all. Expecting it all is a completely different thing to wanting it all and working towards getting it all (in whatever order you decide to get it all). Maybe everything you want is a beautiful home and happy nuclear family, or maybe everything you want is to move to LA, join the cast of Glee, have a fantastic career and then comfortably purchase a beautiful home in Malibu for your family. Who am I to slam you for your goals, even if they differ from my own goals?

If we didn’t dream big, our world would be one that went nowhere, and a place full of complacent, or even resentful people. Our world would not have progressed to where it is today without people in the generations before us working to achieve different goals at different times. But, apparently strangers think I am leading my life wrong by having a different timeline of goals to theirs.

I admit that I, Monique, of Generation Y want it all.

I am not ashamed to admit that (are you?), and I am proudly working towards many different goals despite what complete strangers feel is best for me.

So, I want you to let me know what you want, and what you are doing to get you closer to your dreams…



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