How To Deal With Change – My Learnings


The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.

– Socrates



Zhivago top | Asilio skirt | Cotton On Body bralette | ASOS heels
Photos: Ryan Ammon

Humans are creatures of habit. We fall into a rhythm, and enjoy the comfort and security of that rhythm. 

The thought of these rhythms being thrown into disarray is scary, which is why our ‘comfort zones’ are named as they are. Any upset to them can cause you to feel uncomfortable, angry or sad. Changes to your favourite chocolate treat (Toblerone, I am looking at you!), relationships, presidencies (dear Lord, not sure how we are going to cope with this one!), jobs… they all upset that existing comfort zone.

We live in an ever changing world, and while getting completely used to change isn’t necessarily going to happen, you can at least learn to deal with it a little better. I will admit, I am the worst when it comes to changes in certain areas of my life, particularly changes that are quite out of my control. Over the years, I have learned to manage the way that I feel and deal with change. With everything that is going on in the world at the moment, and some personal changes too, I thought it would be a nice time to share the thoughts that help me to cope with change.

asilio-zhivago-little-miss-mon-bon-3REMEMBER THAT EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON

Things and people come in and out of your life with a specific purpose. Some are there for a long time, others just for a good time (or perhaps not even for a good time, but just to teach you a life lesson). When change creeps in, look back at what has changed and rather than be upset or angry, work out what you got from that thing or person while it was there. Even if there aren’t any good memories that you can take from it, there will at least be some lessons in it for you.

Take a deep breath and refocus your goals

Instead of resisting and fighting change, take a deep breath, let it take it’s course and then refocus. One of the biggest reasons we are so adverse to change is because it challenges those expectations and goals that we already had in place and felt like we were working well with. Sure, it can be upsetting to see them dissolve before your eyes, but some of the best things come from being forced into a shake up. Take the change as it comes, and hit back harder than ever!

Know that a change isn’t always going to be finite

If something has changed – perhaps in a way you really don’t like – it doesn’t mean that it will be that way forever. Just like it changed before, it could possibly change again. Maybe not.

See opportunity in change

Try and put a positive spin on things and find new opportunities from the change. Perhaps you have more time to focus on your own wellbeing, or you have the opportunity to learn more with a new job? Embrace it and focus on the positives that could be, rather than dwell on what you are leaving behind.

Do you embrace change? How do you do it? It is always lovely to learn from you all, so if you have different outlooks on it all, I would love to know them!

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